The shifting years
Staying close during the tween years
Something has shifted.
Your child is still there - you know them, you love them completely. But there are moments now when you don't quite recognize them. Or they don't quite let you in.
It happened gradually. Maybe the conversations got shorter. Or the eye rolls appeared. Or maybe that thing that used to work doesn't anymore.
This is the nature of these years. But knowing that doesn't always make it easier to navigate.
The Shifting Years is a six-week program for parents of tweens. Each week brings a recorded lesson and supporting materials you can move through in your own time. We meet live every week. The first three weeks will be Question and Answer sessions to help you integrate the material — especially around the energetic dimensions of this work — and bring your own family's questions. The final three weeks will be our relational practice container, where we practice together the skills that have the power to significantly transform your relationship with your tween.
Between sessions, you'll have a dedicated circle — a place to ask questions, share what you're noticing, and stay connected to the work.
The Program
Week 1 — Tween Development Understanding what is actually happening in your child — developmentally, neurologically, relationally. The shift makes more sense when you can see it clearly.
Week 2 — The Energetics of Parenting An introduction to Essence — the unshakeable core self that lives beneath the noise of development and culture. Yours, and theirs.
Week 3 — The Energetics of Parenting How self-regulation and relational harmony actually work energetically — and how to use that understanding with your tween.
Week 4 — Active and Reflective Listening The first relational skill. How to listen in a way that helps your child find their own answers rather than giving them yours.
Week 5 — Somatic Self-Reveal How to share yourself honestly with your child — what you're feeling, what you're noticing — in a way that builds trust rather than burden.
Week 6 — Curiosity The practice of staying genuinely open to who your child is becoming, even when it surprises you.
This program is for you if:
You have a child between roughly 9 and 14. You already have some sense that how you show up matters — that your own presence, reactivity, and capacity to listen affects your child more than any technique ever will. You're willing to look at yourself, not just your kid.
You don't need to have it figured out. You just need to be willing to pay attention.
This program may not be the right fit if you're looking primarily for strategies to change your child's behavior, if you're not yet ready to turn some attention toward your own patterns, or if you're in the middle of a serious family crisis that needs more direct support.
About me
I'm Ruthie Yarme. I've been working with parents as a presence-based guide and energy awareness practitioner for more than twenty years - in one-on-one sessions, through my own parenting, and through deep study of how presence and connection actually work in families.
The Shifting Years is a new program. This is the founding cohort, and I'm offering it at a founding rate that reflects that. The curriculum draws on years of individual work with parents and is rooted in Syntara System - a body of work that understands presence, energy, and the Essence of who we are as the ground of all relationship.
The Shifting Years Founding Cohort - Summer 2026
$397 (Future cohorts: $497)
What's included:
Orientation begins July 20
Module 1 drops July 27
If you've been feeling the shift and wondering how to stay close - this is the work.